Please. I’m seriously people. I need you to do me a favor. Go ahead and raise your kids in any way you see fit. Are you a helicopter parent? Fantastic. May your rotor never cease its turning (Unless you want it to). I’m glad you are keeping your children safe. Or maybe you are sitting on a park bench, eyes fixed on your smartphone while your kids navigate the playground equipment. Whether it’s because you value independence, you just need a break, or you really do have something important to do on there (really.) is none of my business. You are doing what you need to do to survive and thrive in your parenting journey. I appreciate that, and I thank you for it.
Parenting isn’t an exact science, a lot of times we have to go by feel. What’s best for one family may not work for another. That’s fine. In fact, it’s so much more than fine. It’s a darn beautiful thing. There is no sense in nit-picking, labeling, or tearing each other down. We’re all doing the best we can in our difficult and oftentimes confusing roles as parents, and we would do well to support each other, even if we have a few variances in style and technique. Because at the end of the day were all trying to do the same thing: What’s best for our families.
The only thing that I could offer you in the way of advice is this: Whatever you do, do it out of love, and not fear. Act out of compassion, and not compulsion. Follow your instincts. Trust yourself, trust your kids, and parent however the fuck you want.
More things that won’t affect my respect for you as a parent:
- Your 6 year old uses a pacifier
- 4 bounce houses, 7 clowns, and 10 piñatas at your kids birthday party (I hope I’m invited)
- The age your kids potty train
- Where and when your kids sleep
- Where (or if) your kids go to school
- You push your 10 year old in a stroller
- You nurse your 3 year old
- You only allow your kids to watch 20 minutes of television a week
- Your kids binge watch 3 seasons of Pokemon in one weekend
- You’re religious
- You’re not religious
- You eat at Mcdonalds
- The number of children you have
- The frequency with which you acquire said children
- What kind of toys or electronics your kids have
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“When I see people stopped in traffic, in the check-out lane at the store, or walking down the street, I like to visualize their bones. It helps me remember that, no matter how different we are, deep down we are all the same.” ~My Chiropractor
No one wants to fail. No one wants to be miserable. No one wants to be depressed. No one wants to have acidic relationships. Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have been given. We all have dreams. We all have vision. We all have aspirations. We all have a past, and we all have made decisions we regret. We all have a spark of greatness, we all have passion, and we all have hate. We all have secrets. We all have scars. Each of us is different, but we are all the same.
I have seen a lot of blog posts and articles lately about “Those People” who don’t believe science, who avoid gluten, or who don’t get the flu shot, who use herbs instead of medicine. People who might believe in God or in gods, people who may be “Naturalists,” but they all have one thing in common: They just don’t believe in science. You know the people, they ignore irrefutable facts, and proven science. How could the hold such irrational beliefs? how could they spit in the face of science when we have all these studies with double blind control groups performed by people who have an education? How could they be so willfully ignorant?
Well I’ve got some news for you, we all have irrational beliefs. And if you think you don’t, you’re delusional. And something else, we may find out down the road (As we often do) that the logic was flawed, that the studies were bogus, that the science was misguided, and that the experts were just ordinary people who hadn’t a clue what they were talking about. We are human, we make mistakes, and none of us has all the answers. We try our hardest to examine the evidence without bias, and with an open mind, but all of us have preconceived notions, and sometimes (heaven forbid) We go with our gut, we follow our instincts, and we make a decision that may seem odd to the rest of the world.
So, as far as I am concerned, you are free to believe what you want, say what you want, eat what you want, smoke what you want, and inject yourself with what you want. But don’t expect me to be quiet when you start calling me dangerous for wanting to eat a non-gmo, organic vegetable. There is nothing scary about it, it won’t hurt you, and if it hurts me, or costs me more money, that’s my own damned business.